Donna,
This is sad. He could more invested in your feeling better.

For the men I've know, b*tching about money has little to do with money. It is usually because they are worried about something else or feeling threatened by something. Maybe he wants you to miraculously get better without his having to worry about you.

I had a friend with pulmonary issues that got more and more severe EVEN THOUGH SHE WAS SEEING PULMONARIES. Sometimes drs and nurses make me angry.
I hope that you find good treatment soon.

Mari