I am so sorry but feel I understand after watching my husband year after year during the holidays....it ranges from anger to tears and he has not enjoyed any of them. He lost a child, both parents, 2 brothers and 6 close friends all between Thanksgiving and X-Mas and this year his beloved schnauzer of 12 years on X-Mas day no less......so I have watched him hurt for 30 years. His baby girl would have been my age and he still carries her picture. I think the only way we can go on is to remember all the good times and the love. Time is supposed to heal all, who knows?? I hope you can survive the pain and things get easier for you. I am lucky that I have not lost a child but was terrified when my middle son was in Iraq 2 years ago, he made it home whole in body but not in mind.
Again I am wishing I had the words to comfort but I was never good at that....but I do feel your pain and wish I could take some away.