Flopper--
is it possible you could stick with the Epi that your local neuro referred you to ? If you feel the epi has more experience and that his/her goals and suggestions are more in line with your views, try to continue seeing him/her.
If it isn't possible for you to continue seeing the epi, try asking your neurologist if he could call and speak to the epi and get any miscommunication between them cleared up, having them work out a treatment plan and the like.
No matter what-- and this is very important-- remember that you have the final say in your body, the treatments, choices and make whatever descions YOU feel are best. Its your health at stake !

L2L