harley, do you know what kind of assisted living they are talking about?

here there are graduated assisted living, depending on the amount of of care you need or want. or don't want. many of these are really adult living communities. many states have banned them because it was descriminating against those with children. so they add the amenities of care and don't have to allow children.

there are some that are like duplexes or quad houses. high rise apartment/townhouses with garages.

they have full everything...kitchens, your own washer and dryer, either balconies or small porches with yards.

but they also offer a dining room if you don't want to cook. have some type of medcial staff on duty. the amount of care depends on the what is needed. you can keep you indepenance.

i had a very close friend move in to one. after 5 years she decided she didn't want to drive anymore and took the van with other residents to run her errands. she enjoyed not cooking all the time too.

she is older than you. i know the situation is different.

but if they are looking as more of a nursing type of facilty, there are other alternatives.

you have rights harley. we are here to help. i wish i could do more.