This is just a portion of an article in todays paper by Jeff Herring who is a marriage and family therapist. It's too long to post here but I was attracted by the part that said:

How to move on, heal and live well.

Talk about it. Many of us mistakenly believe that if we keep it inside it won't bother us. Quite the opposite is true. Remember the character Tom Wingo in "Prince of Tides: and the damage done by not talking about the trauma that had happened in his family? Many times, getting it out in the open can make it manageable.

Forgive those involved. Forgiving does not condone what someone else did, it simply releases us from the pain of their actions.

Most importantly, follow this favorite advice of mine:
"Make a place for the event in your life and then put it in its place."

It's important to remember that it did happen and it did affect you. At the same time, its place is in the past, much like a chapter in a book you have read and choose not to read again.

If you want to but are unable to follow these suggestions, you may want to get professional help putting the past behind you.