Oh Joelle, I know what you mean. My mom is so far away and I feel so helpless at times. Her surgery is coming up so I'll be there for that but sometimes I just want to yank her up and bring her here where we live. That's not possible but it is heart wrenching when you feel like if you were there the docs would maybe listen better. My heart goes out to you and your mother. You sure have enough on your plate don't you?