[QUOTE=FlyFishin Momma;192532](((((((((((((hugs)))))))))
to you and your girls hunny.........
I lost a bro in the same situation your describing.
He left two daughters too...although a little older. the oldes was about to give birth to her first born. My bros first grandchild........and she was adorable........he would have so loved her.

How long ago did this happen hun? Is there family or friends around you to help you deal with this? Can you go to a church or a hospital for a support group? There are so many folks out there who will help ya.......

PLUS You always got us here..........

Feel free to email or pm me anytime you need an ear (eye) to know what your going through.....ANYTIME.......... Thank you so much for your reply! Not having any family in town and little friends left who can be good listeners is what drew me to this sight last night. I find myself further from the church than ever considering what I've been through over the years. I also have no insurance so I won't be able to continue on the anti-depressants for much longer and can't seek out counseling. My husband died Oct 6th, 2 weeks after his sister also died of alcohol abuse! His oldest brother also commited suicide in Oct of 1989. His parents are both deceased, his father from emphezema and his mother of diabetes. There are only 2 siblings left from his family, one a prescriptive drug addict and the other addicted to pot. Everyone in his family had an addictive personality.

The red flags were everywhere throughout my marraige, but I continued to plug away hoping he would come around. Finally the drink was the only thing sustaining him and he lost his 6 figure a year job. As things continued to spiral out of control, I took my little girls and fled the home for their safety. It didn't take long for our half-million dollar home to foreclose and for us to lose everything! From there he hit me with divorce papers and I fought him for full custody knowing he was dependant upon his drink. I proved it in court when he was in full withdrawls on the witness stand and the judge ordered him into rehab. As soon as he got out, he was right back at it and I was able to get supervised visitation ordered for him to be able to see his girls. He died 2 days before the judgement of divorce was to be signed leaving me in hundreds of thousands of dollars of debt and forcing me to close my business I had started in 2006.

I am really glad you responded and know your pain with your brother first hand. I don't understand any of this or how it could possibly happen. This was my best friend and we were inseperable for almost 18 1/2 years. Married for 17 of those years. We have 2 beautiful healthy little girls. My oldest 11 who will never forget her father as she came along before his illness. My littlest will eventually forget him as she came after he was in the beginning of what was to be the end. She is 4. Thank you again for your kind words.