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Originally Posted by ckepi
I am so sorry you are dealing with this. My 1st husband (DH) commited suicide when I was 23, 8 and a half years ago. I didn't have children but I still remember the pain and confusion it caused me.
I can't imagine how hard it is for you to go through this with smal children, I am so sorry for them also.
If you would like to talk send me a private message and I would be happy to connect with you.
Please remember that you did not have any control over this situation but you can choose where to go from here. I won't lie and say oh its easy just get over it, that wouldn't be doing you any favors.
I still think about him and there are days I play back the months leading up to it and wonder if I should have done something different, but I know deep down inside evebtually he would have done it.
I can also tell you that it will get easier as time goes by. If your daughter is having a really hard time dealing with it consider counseling for her and for you if you need it.
I wish you the best of everything from here on out.And please PM me if you want to talk more ok.
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I am so happy for your reply and so sorry for your loss, too. A friend recently said to me "if you've given everything you can, there is nothing left to give." No matter what I could have done, nothing would have stopped this tradgedy. I have no guilt as I literally gave "my everything", but I am so lost now that the family is severed. It doesn't matter whether there is children or not, the pain is intense as we loved our men.
I am so grateful I stumbled onto this site last night. I have received a lot of responses and everyone has such kind and helpful words to say. Thank you so much for yours!