nohope you got me to thinking about the children and I wonder if there are support groups for them....am away from my library that has all this information so will post it for you when I get home. I know that they are young but I was thinking play therapy...for your oldest child. What did you tell her about how he died? And how can she possibly understand.

I think you have a wonderful attitude...to even try to understand what he did to your family is nothing short of amazing. He was ill...that's no excuse but he was.