Telling children the truth is the right thing to do.......as later in life when they hear it ...........it can be a awful shock...and more damaging.

I'm a firm believer in that, your constant presence arround your children, will ease their sorry, comfort their pain, and brighten their future.

Dont be affraid to show emotion to them...just explain your feelings..

Children are clever in that they can decide for themselves, what is important and when...When they start giving you hormonal greif you'll know they are growing up and moving on with their own life.

If they ever feel the need to talk about their father...please allow them to do this, because not allowing will store up trouble.

Art therapy is a great way of expressing feelings, your youngest child may get a great deal from this.... dont be shocked by her pictures though.... their just her imagination, expressing her inner thoughts...harmless..and yet theraputic.

Your eldest child sounds a serious academic... congratulations, too your parenting skills......Grade A students also need 'silly time'...which i'm sure all three of you could do with.....entertainment is expensive ....laughter is free


And nohope....endevour to spend 1 hour a day on you.....healing takes a long time...........living takes forever................

David