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Originally Posted by gizmogirl
Hi, my mom killed herself six weeks after my dad died, just when I thought I had gotton her stable enough to go back for a quick trip to my house on the west coast after spending several months taking care of them. Because the coroner was away on a weekend, they sent a substitute who was drunk and put down undetermined instead of suicide, thinking he was doing a favor. But when a dectective started questioning me, I realized that it had reached the lunacy of me being a "suspect" since I ripped the bag off her head to see if she was alive...
however, I never got blamed really, not by friends and family like you, so unfairly. I have to hope that you don't let it get to you. If you can find a couple who will go out to dinner with you and your husband, you won't have to feel so sad for his loss. There must be some people out there who don't need to have a bad guy for every tragedy! Maybe someone in a different age group than yours - I found that once I started getting friends that were much older and much younger than me, I started to like the west coast after being uprooted from Boston. Maybe it was just correlation and not causation, but I've always felt that when we got to know some people who wouldn't have normally become friends with each other was when I started to stop missing my home state so much.
I'm glad to hear that you have gotton on with your life and have the wonder of a child. You certainly are as normal as can be, don't worry about that LOL! Both you and smiles are wise. I love your quotes. Have a great day.
Jane
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Wow Jane that must have been terribly difficult to have lost both your parents so close together. Then the whole thing with the cause of death, yikes. I'm glad it worked out ok.
I have tried to encourage my DH to make new friends but he is very shy and won't let himself trust any one else, he is afraid of getting hurt again. It makes me sad he deserved better from his "friends". We can't change the past tho I guess.
I just find the stigma attached to suicide so hard to deal with. It isn't like an accidental death or murder, people seem to want someone to blame besides the victim, at least thats how it seems to me often times.
But even those who aren't looking to blame someone still seem unable to discuss it. I guess thats the hardest thing for me, I'm a talker, as if you couldn't tell
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I talk to process and I haven't been able to really talk about this...
Thank you so much for taking the time to read and reply!