Oh, Chris, it is so common at times, we almost need tattoos declaring that it's not AIDS!
From your description, it seems that this woman is highly charged by the superficial busy-ness of daily living with little regard for the human condition. I bid farewell to a couple friends like this years ago and have since learned that when one of them experienced a relatively minor gallbladder incident, she was completely furious that hordes of people were not on her doorstep to mollycoddle her.
Rise up, my friend, there are millions of real people everywhere and most are far more deserving of your time and considerations.
So, who got socked with the check?