I would also venture to guess he has no idea that he is doing all the things
you see him do. But he has no way of telling you at his early age.

For one thing you don't know how to ask him the right questions.
And he doesn't know how to tell you so you understand. This doesnt'
make it your fault or his. And I'm going to guess he thinks its all
his fault and he is a bad person or kid.

The fact that his father see none of the behavior honestly doesn't surprise
me. He doesn't make him behave, and he doesn't care what he does if you ask me.

What I would do is keep a diary of exactly what you said, or did that triggered
the behavior of your son for the therapist. What reaction you got.
How long it lasted. And I realize how hard this part will be do not react, or do anything to try and stop it. See if it just stops on its own.

Also watch for episodes that out of the blue just happen, for no apparent reason. Some protocal, as before, follow the steps. The only time you
intervene is if he is going to hurt himself, you or another child.

If he can or tries to hurt another adult you have the option of either stopping
him, or allowing the other adult to try. Its according to how you trust them.

I have a son a lot like this who is now 26 and when he was little kept getting
stronger, no known reason. Nothing worked, and no one had a clue.

But at 16 luckily a psychiatrist finally recognized the symptoms and at that
point they wouldn't talk bi-polar for at least 3 to 6 months after visits started.
But they would talk intermittent explosive disorder. And that is my son's
diagnosis. He is now a fantastic young man and dad.

If we had that diagnosis at your sons' age and it was true what a difference
it would have been. Right Doctor Right diagnosis.

Donna