What type of doctor or specialist is your neuro. sending you to for a second opinion?

I hope that it's a neurologist or that you have seen one since the doc is saying she thinks you have nerve damage. By that, does your doctor mean root compression? radiculopathy? a pinched nerve? There is more than one possibility. But bone spurs (basically, arthritis-related) aren't the end of the world, though the effects can cause a lot of pain.

Two weeks waiting for the referral isn't terribly bad; I know it must feel as if you've been waiting forever (I've been in the same situation). I would, however, call the neuro's. office and ask the receptionist if there is any word on when you'll be seeing the person for the second opinion. (It might help move things along.) I suspect, though, the doctors have quite a waiting list and that's why you've not heard anything yet.