You're right about having to work at taking care of ourselves Doody and I'm so glad you've found something that works for you.

The path to contentment depends on finding the coping strategy that works best for you, even if that means expressing anger or sadness on this journey. You can't force people to cope is ways that don't fit their nature.

If you're going through an awful time, don't feel bad about feeling bad.
When someone's in hurting over the loss of a job, the end of a relationship or the death of someone they loved, telling them to be more optimistic and look on the bright side just adds insult to injury.

And if it's too painful to deal with right now...put it aside for the time being but remember that "it'll" be there waiting for you.