Good for you, Brain, saying it and actually doing it are often separated by a gulf of fear. Kudos, woman!

In my experience, smaller publishers with specific objectives have been more open to my fiction. My book is reported to be in the "short pile" which is a huge compliment to me (the alternative being the dumpster). I chose this one because it's a small house but has the mainstream distribution channels open to their products. That was an important factor. Also, I wanted to go with an independent name from my own state as a gesture of solidarity.

Are you most eager to sell or be read? Sometimes that helps us choose the venue.

There are a few good writers' groups out there as you mentioned, and most members are surprisingly generous with their experience and tips.

You can do it! Keep going!!!