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Originally Posted by Mari
Dear Hope,
I can remember coming completely undone and upset by bad therapists.
Most of the time, I knew that the problem was the therapist and not me. But I still got upset.
Are you doing this DBT in a group setting? Is the group part of what is throwing you off? -- I hate groups by the way.
At any rate, you don't have to do this.
And even if you do this, you don't have to do it now. You can do it some other time in the distant future if you are ready to try it again.
Or you can buy a few workbooks on DBT and work through some exercises yourself.
DBT happens to be popular among the therapy people right now. That does not mean that it is a miracle.
And it does not mean that it works for everyone.
Take it easy on yourself.
You are the same person you were a few weeks ago. Don't let the bad experience of DBT throw you off.
Take care of yourself. You will be all right.
M.
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This was very good advice Mari and I really appreciate it. I'm not real impressed with the teacher and it is in a group setting. However when I went, there was only one other person in the group (the other one was absent) and she seemed to have the mentality of a twelve year old. Like I said before, I don't think doing emotional work is what I need to be doing now to build my self-esteem. If anything, at this stage of my life, I think it might tear me down, making me feel like I am going backwards to stage one. DBT could be helpful but I think I am capable of doing it on my own as in self-help, if I choose to do so. I don't feel like I need a babysitter to make sure that I do my homework. If they want to build my self-esteem then I suggest going for mastery. I am going to suggest to the state that they buy me the software programs and possibly upgrade my computer so I can spend my time learning new skills as opposed doing emotional work and tolerating emotional distress
and sitting home feeling sorry for myself.
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Originally Posted by bizi
Please tell me why you are afraid.
((((HUGS))))
bizi
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I am afraid that I will never find work or that I will be cleaning toilets for the rest of my life. They treat me like a nobody so I feel like a nobody. I am afraid I will run out of money. I am afraid I will have no friends. I am afraid that I will never live up to my potential. I am afraid to ask for what I need. I am afraid I will never be or feel NORMAL again.
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Originally Posted by Nikko
Forgive me for being stupid, but what exactly does DBT stand for?
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You're not stupid,
I didn't know what it meant either until I looked it up. It stands for Dialectical Behavioral Therapy
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Originally Posted by ginnybean32
I did DBT in my eating disorders clinic I had to attend after I was discharged from the hospital in November and it really helped me. It took me by surprise how they talk to you and how it seems your being mocked but its not really! Maybe giving it a chance you may start to feel better about yourself than you do now. Try a good week of it before giving up. Good luck. I'll be keeping a watch for your posts.
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Thanks Ginny, I suspect that your group might have been better run since it was done in a clinical type setting. Just my guess. This is just being run by a MSW at a local counseling center. She appears to be following the book and unable to think outside the box and personally, I don't see how this is supposed to address my needs of more structure in my life and coping skills, particularly for my ADD issues. I'm just wondering, how long were your classes? This is a six month deal... it seems way too long, especially for something I an not committed to.
All in All, I think I've decided not to go through with it. I did one group, might do one more but I don't think so. I will talk to my t-doc again about this tomorrow, I think he will agree. The problem is that I am back to square one again.
I'm sinking back into the dark hole again. I have to call p-doc as I think the change in meds recently, took the anxiety away but the depression is still here. I feel pretty dull.
Thanks so much for your replies.
~Hope