My father is like that too, Mari. Drives me insane. I have some of the same thoughts as your sister. How in the heck am I supposed to care for him as he gets older if there is no communication? Freaking stuborn old soldier. The old Lt. Col. was trained to never complain and suck it up. So, being a good soldier, he does so. Which is now a problem. His health is a big issue lately and he won't say a word until it's really bad.

I feel for ya love. I wish I had an answer, but I am sorta where you are. Slightly angry and really at a loss of what to do.