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Originally Posted by mymorgy
I think you are right about letting your sister go until she comes to terms on how much anger she feels towards your parents...it sounds as if it far less threatening for her to use you as a target rather than your parents. In the past my sister has said some pretty creepy things that made me realize how deep her pathologically was...I don't even think a therapist could get at it since it is so embedded.
I think you will find it easier to let go than you imagine...
Bobby
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Yes, Bobby,
Sister has
joked about the crappy job our parents did and told me to "get over it."
Well, I'm so over them that I am done with them. She's next but it will take me a little time -- almost like a mourning phase.
The part I bolded in your post is what my tdoc said a while a go.
I like my tdoc because she thinks my parents were exceptionally incompetent.
I asked her why mine would be any worse than those of her other patients.
She said that usually ONE parent is semi-competent and can make up for the failings of the other -- not the case here. : (
So, when she said that I felt validated -- whether it was true or not.
I'm sorry that your sister is hostile to you.
M.