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FaithS · 02-25-2008, 12:00 AM

Sigh!

My DD18 is SO 18! She is a senior in HS, and has a hx of making good decisions. She is currently under the delusion, however, that 18 is a magic age, and that parents no longer have the authority to make any decision for her.

The current issue is her health. She has been feeling under the weather for 4-6 weeks. She has been to the doctor multiple times. They have done blood tests, chest X-rays, and checked her stool sample.

They have currently ruled out anemia, mono, inflammation of the joints and thyroid stuff. The only reason that I know that is that my DH went along to her last appointment. She has been going to the doctor alone, because she likes to be independent. However, she has failed to obtain information about what they are testing for, etc.

They also tested for 3 additional things; netiher DH or DD understood what the nurse said, and, neither one of them asked her to repeat it.

DD has frequently missed school during the last weeks, because she is so fatigued. She has lost weight -- is a small girl, and probably down to 100 lbs.

The kicker is that she continues to believe that it is OK to go out in the evenings when she has missed school. It is particularly church (youth group) events that she wishes to attend. DH believes that "church is more important than school", so the 3 of us are arguing frequently about what she can and can't do.

DH and I are planning to sit down tomorrow evening and discuss that, along with just the general issue of her attitude that we can no longer tell her what to do, and come to some mutual decisions which we will then presnet to her.

I am so tired of this. I have always been very reluctant to see my kids grow up and move away. I am beginning to see "senioritis" as a process to help parents WANT their kids to move away. I don't know how much longer I can deal with this attitude stuff.

~ Faith