Bizi,

Have you ever seen that guy on Oprah who does shows about getting rid of clutter?

He asked a woman what her three goals were for the kitchen. She said something like, "Health, Love, Nutrition."

Then he started picking up items and asked her if they fit goals she had stated for the room. He held up an ugly bowl and asked her if it fit the goals. She said no, so he threw it in the garbage box.
They kept doing this. Then at one point she broke down crying because she didn't want him throwing out her kitchen stuff. He reminded her of her goals for the room and she then agreed with him and they got back to work.

When they finished they together created a beautiful kitchen. It had no extra stuff and all the stuff necessary to support her goals.

His "goals" question had provided the blueprint for how the room should look afterwards. Ten years from now, she might have different goals/values for that room.

So that is how I see your value question a little. One could think of the "goals" for that kitchen as "values" for life.

For example, if someone values money, they should not set a goal to study to be a social worker/teacher. That would not fit their values.

If someone values fairness, they might have a set a goal to become a lawyer.

If a person was unclear of their values, they might flounder around trying to achieve various goads that don't fit them. If someone does know their values, then they can set clear goals for themselves and work on achieving them.

The trick is to figure out the values and then match the goals.

. ...taking a guess here


. . . trying to work this out in my head a little. . .

. . . and not sure it works for everyone.

Mari