((((((((((((((( beth ))))))))))))))))
it's so difficult to parent and live with chronic pain. it sounds like you do so well!
i would certainly get her in with a therapist just for an assessment. you might be right on target with the ADD. she sounds much like i was as a child, and i live with ADD as well. the frustration coming from nowhere (as well as the sensitivity) is very familiar to me. also, i was showing outwardly only 1/10 what i felt inside and would think, "i'm being an angel right now compared to what i feel and YOU'RE upset???" I remember thinking that alot and being confused by the reactions around me when I thought I was being controlled and good.
therapy could help her to recognize her frustrations and work on them continually. i think it would be great for her age! for ANY child that age.
good luck and let us know!
KD