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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Tampa Bay Region, Florida
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Tampa Bay Region, Florida
Posts: 456
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I don't "hate" people; but I do find them
obnoxious, ignorant, rude, intolerable, and
so on - and it's either usually because they
were reared in this manner or developed this
attitude.
But basically from my years of being a ordained
minister and pastor, primarily I've found that
this problematic issue was mostly due to
folks being insecure. They were trying to be
someone that they are not...
And the other issue was low-self esteem, which
they attempt to hide it by covering it up by
being a hot-shot, swelled egos, superiority,
and so on.
Very few of them were a result of being from
dysfunctional families or abuse and were a
result of being defensive mode.
Working with them step-by-step to resolve the
issue, like the 12 steps used in Alcoholics
Anonymous often resolved it, but if I determined
and discerned that the individual had a severe
psychological or psychiatric problem; I would
find out who their Doctor was and consult with
him/her privately so they may deal with their
patient one-on-one. Many times Physicians have
informed me that they have tried to tell such
person that they needed help, then I would
state I would then make my attempts to try
to work with them to get them to seek help,
because such is a sensitive issue and must
be deal with in a special way. Many times the
individual complied after a progressive and
slow counseling, but a few were resistant and
balked to it and it was without much avail.
Neither their own Doctor or the Pastoral Care
could do much for such individuals. It happens.
The individual would want to want help, no one
can force them unless they are a threat or danger
to themselves or others or if they were suicidal,
then force could be used, but other than that;
there was nothing else - except trying via the
family members ... but many times their own
family members didn't want to be bothered.
No, I don't hate people - I care for them, regardless
of how they might be towards me.
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Sharon
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" Vujà Dé - The feeling you've
never been in here before!"
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