Thank you all for your thoughts and encouragement.

I brought dd to pediatrician demanding that they help her.

She has been put on ritalin for now , I had asked if i could admit her to hospital and she had said that the minute that her meltdown is over they will send her home and that they don't have the psychologists on staff to help her.

Hospitals are for acute care... according to her.

So for now she's on ritalin, i do notice a little bit of a difference so if anything that is a good sign.