Not at all. It's immaterial to me where Daniella lives and whether she returns to MI or not. I've just been trying to help Daniella get to the bottom of her symptoms, get healthy, and lend her some strength. She posted in this form in distress. Imagine, Sue, if she goes through the considerable trouble and expense of moving back to Michigan, and her health problems don't get better. That's what I'm trying to save her from.

The previous two forums sponsored by Massachusetts General Hospital, continuing here, were a lifeline to me. I owe a lot, am full of gratitude, and am repaying a great debt.

All we have are words here; no hugs, no visible tears, no break in our voices, no soothing tone of voice, no touching, no personality aside from the emoticons, which turn me and seem to turn most men off. If I sense something that might help I won't give up on people until I'm sure they understand what I'm getting at and what my words mean. Then, they are more free to make informed choices for their health, which may not be at all what I recommended.

Its amazing what people read into postings beyond the actual words. In a very real sense, this forum besides offering an exchange of ideas and information is also a mirror where we fill in the missing emotion and personality with ourselves. To let you know that I do this, a man active in the previous forum and I developed quite an antipathy. He became quite hostile and threatening, including in private messages.

I notified the moderators, and was thinking of arming and getting law enforcement involved in case it was possible for him to find out where I live. Then I found out that he was a frail, crippled, disabled person in his 70's living half a world away. His words, on rereading, took on a different meaning and I took on a different way of reacting to him, supportive rather than hostile and defensive. In that case, this mirror of a medium reflected my defensiveness and paranoia beyond what his actual words warranted.

BTW, in the same way, his attacks on me were because I urged somebody else to continue looking for alternatives to opiates for pain relief. He was using opiates, and took my writing as an attack on him, and as being judgmental against him, which wasn't the case at all.