Your situation is very close to my heart right now. I like to think I'm in charge of making a decision to slow down "a lot" at work. But, in all actuality, the ms is making the decision FOR me. I've been fighting reality. I have finally turned it over to God. Things just seem to be falling into place now for my future in the workplace. It is a real test for me to be patient and accept that it is OK for me to slow down considerably... life will go on. Right now, I'm feeling pretty good about it... tomorrow I may be back to trying to take over for God. We can, at times, have a little "tug of war" going on... which I'm sure has to be aggrevating to God, if truth be told. But I'm taking baby steps in the journey of settling into the reality of it all. I try to rememer, "It is what it is" and what can I do with it to lead the best and happiest life possible? I got some really good advice from a few nice people here at NT. These folks are very genuine and smart. I am thankful for them everyday. I am also thankful for you. I wish you the best in the world. I hope things settle in for you to have a happy life. My prayers are with you and your mother.