Hi Crazy!
Welcome to NeuroTalk!
I'm no expert but a true case of less is more where food is concerned. Not just less food, but less preparation and embellishment. In other words, eat when you're hungry but eat intelligently. My main thing is to eat foods as close to the way God made them as possible, and if you can get it from the driver's seat, it's not food!
I hope you'll find a path that works for you and good luck with your lady friend.