I can't remember if I have shared with you this story or not...
and have been torn about even posting about it...but am looking for some perspective and guidance from you guys.

This is a very sad story.
I will make this as brief as possible though I promise.
6 months ago we met our new neighbors who moved in directly across the street from us. Harry and Leslie lived in a travel RV and had been touring the country for the past 10 years. They have no family, are only children and their parents have past away as well. They have a dog whom is like their child...she is a great dog.
Harry had pancreatic cancer.
He had gone in to the doctor for a severe stomach ache and they discovered his cancer and it had metasticised so he was not even a candidate for extensive surgery....he had months to live. They had openly talked about a double suicide...
In January He died after a painful death in the hospital.
Needless to say this has been a living nightmere for Leslie.
I tried to be a good neighbor and befriended her early on...she did not have any support system and I felt so sorry for her....I still do....I believe that she is still a suicde risk, she even has guns in the house.... I confronted this and she ssaid that she promised harry that she would not kill herself...that she would give it a year.
Now what I have to say may sound insensitive... I am just going to throw out some things here.....
When we first met her it was obvious that she had many issues...alcohol is one of them ...now granted she is dealing with so much and is/was in shock/pain/grief...so it is hard to figure out exactly what is reactionary and what is what really. They were there soley with each other. He had a calming sort of moral compass for her.
Her personality is way over the top....
Before he passed away...My hubby and I went over there to share a pizza one night...we were overwhelmed with her behavior. Maybe because she was an only child she never learned what appropriate behavior was...I don't know.
At first she is overly ( everything about her is overly) complimentary of you and then she is telling you what to do being bossey and criticising...like she is the authority on any issue....she would boast about herself...and cut down people with one word...for example...she called our very sweet elderly lady neighbor "stupid". We were shocked...and wonder what she says about us...behind our back. She is like a bull in a china factory.
I used to go over there fairly regularly and have a cocktail with her....it became apparent that she drinks too much and that is what happened when we had her for dinner a few weeks ago.
SHe had been drinking before she came over for dinner and then drank a whole bottle of wine in an hours time. Thru out dinner she kept going over and over topics and not making much sense making compliments and criticisms(specifically to hubby)...the evening seemed never ending and we kept giving clues that we wanted to wrap it up and she did not read the non verbals. I asked hubby to play a peice of music for her on his classical guitar and he did, it was a beautiful romantic piece which she told him it was "boring" and then she insisted he play something that he wrote and she got up and cheered while he was playing....which was rude and obnoxious.
After 3 hours, by this time we were both standing up in front of her...and she finally got up to leave, I actually opened the door for her to leave and she left.
I apoligized to hubby and said we never had to have her over again.
Since then I have avoided her. Up until last week.
I felt guilty so went over with a coke in hand to chat with her for half an hour. I set up a time limit.
She sort of apoligized for her behavior at dinner...and went about telling me of all of the projects she has started, the things she has been doing keping busy which is great....
I continue to feel very sorry for her and guilty for avoiding her.
Being a non confrontational person....I am avoiding contact with her....who wants to walk on egg shells....Does she sound like a border line personality to you?
I am torn with these feelings.
bizi