Aww Julie
I can feel your pain. You came to the right place.

So let it all out girl.
It always feels better to get stuff out of your own head.
You are ready to change because you realize your actions are not working for you. Acknowledgement is that first step.
Lots of good advice has been given, please heed it. It is the concerned voices of experience.
I'm here ready to listen so don't be a stranger. Sit a while and tell us more.
BTW, the other scout parents are just acting out. By not responding you are deminishing their perceived power. Your son sounds like a wonderful child.