Hi Joelle
Take care of yourself. It's tough to deal with parents and their stuff when you are having to deal with your own stuff at the same time. Just remember to take a little time each day for yourself.
I will be thinking of you while you deal with your mom and thanks for the thoughts about what I am going through with mine.
My sister and I will be working with hospice for my mom on Monday. I have heard nothing but good about them.
Check in when you can and keep us posted. Best of luck with your mom's treatment, your dad, and your dh...and you, too.