Hi Cyclelops,
I am sorry life is so stressful for you right now.
I hope the source of your son's infection is clearly identified and very well taken care of!
I also am glad some issues have been further clarified for you and you know how you'd like to proceed in addressing them!
I have been hoping to have a short bicycling "exchange" sometime, as I am a cycling fan, too! No rush on this though! First things first!
I will be offering positive thoughts and prayer for you and your son!
Take care!