Ah Joelle,
We all have family members that just don't FIT.
I just be as nice as possible while never talking to them if I can help it.
The worst part is I am sure there are some who feel that way about me too!
I just smile and say " Oh Realllly?" whenever they say anything, even if I have to grit my teeth to hold that smile. Then I excuse myself and walk as far away as possible.
Please check in when you can. We'll be watching for you.
My prayers are with you and your family, even the ones who make you wince or grind your teeth.