Tomorrow I have a hearing before the review board. I've often wondered if the question from any judge has ever been, How do we cope?

It is a tough question to answer, but I really thought about it today and I found no easy answer. We cope as individuals to the best of our ability. One might manage to cope through pride, refusing to give in, refusing to use a cane or scooter. One might deny that one's body is becoming more uncontrollable and doing everything to work against a person. How we cope depends on one's character for the most part. Stop and think about your character, some people are stronger emotionally, more determined. This is not to put some one less so in a defensive position.

I was raised in a family with two older brothers, I had to adapt to a neighbor hood of boys. Therefore I had to be as strong, as determined as they that I would not let them get the best of me. My family has always been hard working, determined to make the best of any situation, therefore, I was taught to get through life no matter what life threw into my path, good or bad. I'm not the only person to whom this has been taught, and its not to say others taught are now in a position where they feel the need to give up.

A chronic illness of any kind is devastating to an individual and to those around. I might spend three or more days in bed, not so much because I want, but because I have no choice. Are there days I might could be up doing more, I'm sure there are, but I feel that if I push too hard, the payback is not worth the reward of accomplishment.

So, back to the question of how do we cope? We cope as we know how and no one should be judge accordingly or made to feel less than they are. Even if they could do more, that is not the important issue. The important issue is that each individual ask themselves: Why do I feel quilty? Is it because I could do more, but will not because of the consequences. Then why do you even ask the question of quilt. I often feel as if I should do more...but I have come to this conclusion.

If you feel that it should get done...do it yourself or shut up!! lol The energy I have I want to spend doing something good for a change. Those dishes are not going anywhere, the laundry will not jump up and run off. If people come to see me to see my house...stay home! If they are coming to see me, they will not care about my house!

So, I guess the answer is we cope best we can with what we have. We can't give up, nor give in...it is what it is and we must relish our good days and do our best through the bad ones. Sometimes the bad are more often than the good, but then maybe that makes us appreciate the good ones more.

Ok, I must plan my strategy for tomorrow and make sure I have what I need:
Amaretto, ink pen, cane, lol (this refers to another post btw)

Remember to do something good for you...don't make me tell you twice!!

Momma Sez...
I asked a judge what he had under his robe, he answered nothing.
I said, no wonder your wife is looking for another man. lol