Oh my~ you have been through alot. I'm sorry for the loss of your husband, but I'm glad you found NeuroTalk. There are so many caring, wonderful members here. I can understand your frustration w/your pain, as I too, suffer from FM, PM and spine problems.
Epidurals were only a quick fix for me, as my pain returned not long after the epi's.
Here is a link to our Spinal forum; hope it helps.
http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/forum22.html
Welcome to our lil corner of the world. And, I really do believe there IS a light at the end of the tunnel. Hang in there: you are among friends.