I am so sorry, and can so relate. When my dad died, I found out what a bunch of jerks he had for sisters and brothers. Luckily, I haven't been close to many, and don't associate with any now.

My mom's brothers/sisters are just as jerky. My mom took care of my g-ma in HER (my mom's) home for 4 years when she (my g-ma) had alzheimers. It was bad. They did nothing but cause trouble, and the funeral was a joke. Again, I choose not to associate with them.

They are all so unhappy and so unsatisfied with life that they have to make others feel that way. Well, I ain't goin' there =)

Hope you can move on and find some centeredness (is that a word?) with your family...

Also, sorry about your uncle. Losing someone we love sucks!