Hi,

Keep in mind that it is her and not you.
Keep doing the things that work for you and try not to let her throw you off.

Around the time I was wrapping things up with my old tdoc, I told him that when I said something, that is indeed what I needed to talk about and not whatever he thought he was "hearing" in my statement.
He agreed that he had kind of been trained that way but had learned to be more patient oriented over the years.

That's why we got a long.
He was smart enough and agile enough and willing enough to make adjustments for me. I was aware that I was sort of "training" him (he was young) but I thought that he might be worth it and he was.
We were together for 8 years and accomplished quite a bit.

Is your tdoc willing to be lead by you? Do you think that in another session you can have a talk with her about your needs?


This kind of stuff irks me to no end -- when they know better than you.
Also, focusing on bad -- what's the point? Focusing on something good can eventually help with the bad in the future anyway.

My current tdoc is wonderful about getting me to look at what I have done right. Sometimes she throws me off guard.

I left many tdocs after one visit. . . so many that I lost count.
But there are tons of stinky ones in my town. Tons.


I also remember reading that it is harder to find a good therapist than a good friend. So true. I have had extremely hard time finding friends. Good therapists are rarer.

Good luck.
I think that you will be eventually able to navigate this.
In the meantime, it sounds like you are going through difficulty.
I hope that you feel better about this in a few days.

When I needed to forget something I used to go to a movie in a great theater with good speakers and all and watching something exhillarating and intense.
Do what works for you -- be around nature, take few walks, . .

M.