Hello,

Welcome.

Parents can really do a number on us.
I have had nearly two decades of therapy, journaling, talking through this with my sister, reading books on this and so forth.

In the past two years I have started to make a tiny bit of progress in feeling less intense about how they messed up/harmed us when they were raising my siblings and me.

And my parents don't want to hear a word about anything that we have gone through as adults in order to save ourselves.

They ignore what we say, brush it off, try to make a joke out if it, or get angry. I long ago gave up communicating to them on any deep level. When I call, we talk about their projects and what they are doing.

They have a deep capacity of self-deception. And they will do anything to stay deceived.

M.