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Old 04-19-2008, 11:03 PM
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Dear Girlie,
You have shared alot of information with us...thank you for this.
I feel honored when you trust us enough to tell us how you are really feeling.
I wonder if you can put the brakes on during your therapy sessons.
It sounds as if you are afraid that she will abondon you if you make waves.
She is not going to do this.
I think you perhaps could restate your needs....
(just figuring out your wants and needs takes work and then asking for it takes even more work)
what it is that you would like for her to do....
could you simply ask her to listen, understand and support you.
She may be a fixer type of person....trying to fix you.
THis is your work...she should be there to help you do this....
ON YOUR TERMS and time frame....what happened to baby steps?
If you feel she is pressuring you then this is a problem.
There are no quick fixes...we all know this...it is the small steps we take along the way.
She is to be your cheerleader...at least that is what I think...a life coach in a sense....you get to create the life that you want and need....and she is working for you...you are the one in charge.
Another way to look at this is that you could fire her for not doing her job...
but she needs to be clear about what that job is....what you expect of her.
It goes both ways.

Just wanted to tell you how proud I am of you...
THis is hard work and you are worth this struggle.
I think of you in a sisterly way....
((((HUGS)))))
bizi
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Happiness is a decision....

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haldol 5mg 2x a day
1mg of cogentin 2x a day
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I will not give up in this weight loss journey, nor this need to be AF. 3-19-13=156, 6-7-13=139, 8-19-13=149, 11-12-13=140, 6-28-14=157, 7-24-14=149, 9-24-14=144, 1-12-15=164, 2-28-15=149, 4-21-15=143, 6-26-15=138.5, 7-22-15=146, 8-24-15=151, 9-15-15=145, 11-1-15=137, 11-29-15=143, 1-4-16=152, 1-26-16=144, 2-24-16=150, 8-15-16=163, 1-4-17=169, 9-20-17=174, 11-17-17=185.6, 3-22-18=167.9, 8-31-18= 176.3, 3-6-19=190.8 5-30-20=176, 1-4-21=202, 10-4-21= 200.8,12-10-21=186, 3-26-22=180.3, 7-30-22=188, 10-15-22=180.9,
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