Thanks mymorgy! This is very helpful.

Just realized something: using this kind of label-words for a more complex thing within a board is also helpful in seeing myself more clearly. Like from some interaction with other people I came to see that seeing someone treated unfairly, especially a gentle person, I get annoyed and want to defend them. I have always known that I do that in real life but although it seems at first glance a nice quality it is not always good. As soon as I see myself doing it these days I remind myself to back off.
So this would be a "trigger" for me just like some things make other people sad or anxious. It is not good to get involved too much in this way because I have finally started learning how to defend myself. Once I start learning something, thank goodness, it goes fast. It is getting the "feel" of the thing right that is hardest. Does this make sense at all?