Hi Jackie
Big hugs from me too. I am very glad you found this board.
About the ADHD: today I found a brand-new website by a couple of highly qualified docs on this with a really positive take on the issue. My daughter has dyslexia and I have ADHD. I have also encountered people with a very positive view of dyslexia, especially a young lady (24) who has been given the same type of positive-approach handling/therapy for it as they are suggesting for ADHD on this site, and it really helped her tremendously. She is a selfconfident, happy, likable, contributing young adult.
http://www.unwrappingthegiftofadd.com