i dont think waiting is even a possiblity, i worry about my kids too and understand the over protective part of it, but like you said, being dx'ed is a long drawn out process, and yeah the docs do tend to blame us for being nuts or making it up, so i would say the sooner you get her tested, the sooner you can either rule out certain neuro illnesses or unfortunately rule one in, your daughter and you are in my prayers and thoughts, hang in there mom