Good Morning Judy! I'm so sorry about your apmt problems. Of course, you know I can't offer any suggestions for you. We don't rent or lease, but my DS had quite the problem at his other apmt complex. The owner had many large apmt bldgs all over the country and he just kept skipping around, as he was in debt up to his eyeballs.
It got to where every month, my DS had to mail his rent to a diff address. We broke the lease (DH is good at threatening) and got him out of there. It was such a nice place when he first moved in, but it got to the point where nothing was getting fixed, trash was building up, etc. My DH threatened to call the local news station, etc. We heard on the news that he had a tremendous gambling debt.
They let him out of his lease and even gave us the deposit back *eventually* Thank goodness he is in a great apmt now.
Anyway, this sounds like a job for da ~ da ~ da..... AMN.
She probably has some ideas for you, if I know her.
Take care of yourself and try not to get too worked up. It's not good for you.