On taping - I live in two party state - both have to agree to the recorder and since I have to go to appts alone - its tough.... so if you do have someone to bring with you - do it!!!!

One way people get around the two party recording - at least by phone - is even though you can tell a company you do NOT want to be recorded - they willl have another person listen in on the phone conversation (trust me on this) and be writing it down - they do not reveal this to you and I think its incrediby unethical....

I'm sure many docs dont want to be recorded for the obvious reason - future liabilties - so if you do have to go alone and they wont let you record - write what you can in front of them - even if it takes forever.... and get copy of records asap... so you can remember whats being said!