David, I echo the sentiments above.

The bottom line is when you're at work, your devotion should be toward your work and the welfare of the organization. Employees need to leave their personal problems at home. It's easier said than done, but there are limits. People become friends and talk with each other about personal issues, but it should NOT have any impact on your work.

I used to work for a man who held weekly 8 a.m. staff meetings. At 8 a.m., he locked the door and took note of who was not in attendance. I knew two women who used to cheat on their time cards - they were promptly fired. That's just how work life is. It HAS to be run in such a way in order for it to function. It's not personal.

If she's blaming this on you, I think she should take a closer look in the mirror and seek the help you suggested. If she continues to blame others, her life will only get worse.

This is NOT your problem, and you did nothing wrong.