I am very pleased to meet you! This may sound weird, but what you described reminds me very much of my mother-in-law, who has lived with us for the past 18 years. So I feel that I understand at least a part of what you are going through. I'm no expert, but if you ever just feel like talking things through, I or many others here are more than ready and willing! Hopefully I will see more of you here. Good luck and best wishes!

Idealist