I am so sorry you have to go through this. You do have one thing going for you right away, though. . . it sounds like you have and are putting your children first. It is not easy to get your feet back under yourself, and your kids will be way ahead if they see you focused and problem solving. I sense that you will be there for them no matter what, and that they will have a dad who rises above and sets the good example they need to help them grow up and enter adulthood without so many scars.
Lifting you in prayer also . . .