Dear Anne,
I didn't take time to read all the other response but I wanted to tell you that I am so very, very sorry for all that you have on your plate right now. That is so sad about your brother.
I hope that things will ease up and maybe you can find some way to honor your brother in your own way.
What a difficult time. I am sending you warm hugs and hoping that soon you may feel better and come to terms with all that is going on in your life.
I hope your husband does well and hopefully you can get your computer situation resolved soon.
Much Love,
Nancy