Yeesh!
One custom made, moose-size hug for my buddy Big Jim and his lovely wife Sandy.
x2.
Yep. The VA. Not bad mouthing them mind you, I am pleasantly surprised with the results I get here in Fayette-Nam, NC. (Regardless of the bad press the organization has gotten on a whole). But if they ain't cutting it, seek help elsewhere.
Gonna ditto Vic's advice on your son, too. I know you have a big heart Sandy, but you have to take it one crisis at at a time.