Gamgam,
I don't know how recent your loss is but I hope that it gets a little easier for you. I know how it feels to try and always put on the "happy face" for others. Sometimes it's just too hard.
I hope you like the website - it takes a little while to get used to it and maneuver around...I went to it the other day - first time in many months - and it had changed quite a bit but was still good. I made a lot of wonderful friends there. They have a message board and a chat room similar to this site.
Good luck to you...hang in there and just take it a day at a time.