((((((Mili)))))),
Got ya'
I think you're instincts are right on target.
That's what I used to say about my son -- he never saw the consequences of his actions. My husband always-always fought me on it. I never could get my viewpoint across -- until the EX passed 10 years ago. Finally-finally, my son is seeing what I've been saying.
I think you're EXACTLY RIGHT -- he's got to see the consequences of what he does.
That what stinks about the school officials too -- they don't see that if they're not a team with the parents and if they don't follow-through on what they say they're going to do, the kids pay later (when they finally learn the lessons).
Follow your instincts, Mili. I think your gut is telling you EXACTLY what you need to do.
BIG HUGS (and love). Stay strong.
Barb